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RELATIONSHIPS | Tips on celebrating your first Christmas as a couple

07/12/2020

I don’t know about you, but I always get nervous around Christmas-time when I’m in a new relationship. Christmas is super important to me – I love spending time with my family, I love all the celebrations, I love doing festive things – so bringing another person into the mix (and having to buy them presents!) is a little overwhelming for me.

This year, my boyfriend and I are spending our first Christmas together fully as a couple, as we’re in our new house and I’m obviously not living at my childhood home anymore. This is entirely new to me! I’ve been in relationships at Christmas before of course, but usually I’d spend Christmas back at ‘home’, napping every day, watching tons of Christmas movies and drinking snow ball’s non-stop.

This year it’s going to be entirely different – and in a good ‘new-chapter-of-my-life’ way, so I wanted to share some tips on celebrating your first Christmas as a couple!

Celebrating your first Christmas as a couple | A photo of me stood beneath an arch with Warwick Castle in the background

HAVE A PRE-CHRISTMAS CHAT

Ideally, you should already know what type of person your other half is, but I think it’s quite important to find out how they feel about Christmas! For example, I love Christmas so much and want to do all the festive things every winter, whereas my boyfriend isn’t that bothered about the season but will do these things to make me happy. That works for us, as it means I don’t overwhelm him with tons of Christmas markets or too many Christmas movies! It’s important to talk to your other half about how they like to spend Christmas, as some people are happy just staying at home watching movies over winter, whereas others like to go out and do more activities!

You should also talk about your Christmas Day plans well in advance…

COMPROMISE

..which brings me to my next point: compromise. Tensions run high during the holidays, so it’s a good idea to practice compromising, especially when it comes to Christmas Day. No one particularly wants to spend Christmas Day away from their family, but the way I see it is spending it with another family when I go to my boyfriend’s parents. Many people like to swap each year, and I think this is especially common when people have divorced parents etc. Just remember to relax and not turn it into a whole Four Christmases situation. And discuss in advance who’s driving and who’s having a drink!

DON’T OVERSPEND

..especially this year! If you’re spending Christmas with your other half’s family or want to spoil your partner, remember you don’t need to spend lots of money to do this. There are tons of ways to save cash on present giving!

Read more: 6 ways to have an inexpensive Christmas this year

BE OPEN-MINDED

People celebrate Christmas in different ways. Some people don’t celebrate Christmas at all. It’s really important to be open and respectful to other people’s ways of celebrating/not-celebrating at this time of year. And yes, this means getting involved with any totally weird family traditions your partner may have!

MAKE YOUR OWN TRADITIONS

If you’re spending your first Christmas at home this year, this is the perfect time to make your own traditions too. If you’re not at home, there will still be a time in the morning or throughout the day to have some time to yourselves (and to check in and talk about how you’re feeling about the day if you’re still nervous). As nervous as you may be, there’s something really beautiful about celebrating your first Christmas as a couple! It’s exciting, it’s romantic and it’s the chance to forge out new memories and traditions that will hopefully last for many Christmases to come!

CARVE OUT SOME ROMANTIC TIME ALONE

You should remember that your feelings as a couple are important too! Try and carve out at least some romantic festive time this winter. This could be anything from having a Christmas movie marathon to going ice skating. One of the best things about being in a couple during the Christmas season is being able to do all the romantic and festive things – so make the most of it, whether it’s in Milton Keynes, London or you’re doing some Suffolk dating!

Read more: 7 festive date ideas in Milton Keynes

If you’re not yet in a relationship this Christmas – or you just need a Holidate – head online! Local dating sites such as Suffolk dating site will have you shacked up with someone in no time. Just be safe about it – we’re still in a pandemic remember.

As well as being safe and respectful of other people’s celebrations, it’s also important to just have fun! Things may go wrong throughout the day – and that’s okay. We all know how wrong things went in the first Gavin and Stacey Christmas special – yet by the morning, all was forgotten. No one is really going to judge you if you drink a bit too much out of nerves (this happened to me at my partner’s Dad’s 60th!), or if you forget the presents. Everyone knows Christmas can be tough for some people and most families will be extra lenient towards new partners at this time of year.

Christmas comes once a year! Enjoy it, don’t beat yourself up about it if things go wrong and appreciate the chance to be able to be with people this Christmas at least.

How are you spending Christmas this year? Do you have any tips to share on celebrating your first Christmas as a couple?

*Please note, this is a sponsored post but all views and opinions are entirely my own.

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