Since becoming single, I’ve thought a lot about the idea of dating again and, in all honesty, it’s a scary thought! The idea of meeting someone new and having to impress them, having to get over the hurdles of winning them over and doing things like meeting the parents definitely isn’t easy. But it has got me thinking about dating in general and ways I prep for a first date – especially going on a first date in such a long time – so I thought I’d share them with you.
Here’s some go to (and sometimes funny!) ways to prep for a first date.
DO YOUR RESEARCH – BUT TO AN EXTENT
There’s nothing worse than going on a date and asking those boring questions like ‘so, what do you do?’ only for them to remind you you already discussed that subject last week and had an entire conversation about it. Remembering the basics; name, age, job etc is just being polite! But at the same time, don’t stalk them on social media beforehand or, if you do, at least be careful about it. Leave some things to the imagination so that you actually have some things to talk about on the date.
PLAN YOUR JOURNEY
I go on a lot of dates in London and more often than not, I make an educated guess of how much time I need to get ready and how early I should leave – only to turn up late in a faff, all sweaty and stumbling over my words having rushed. Luckily most people are quite laid back about a bit of lateness – especially in London when it comes to getting the underground – but only to a certain extent and if you don’t take the p*ss. It’s also not a good idea to turn up feeling stressed and rushed about. You want to arrive early or on time, feeling relaxed and confident!
…AND YOUR OUTFIT
You might have an outfit or two in mind but if you’re anything like me you’ll do your hair and makeup and go to get dressed – only to find that top you wanted is in the wash or that statement necklace that this outfit ONLY goes with is nowhere to be found. Seriously. If you have an outfit in mind, at least take a few minutes a few days beforehand to find everything you need and put it together, just in case something needs washing.
DO ALL THAT GIRLY STUFF
Shave your legs, paint your nails, have a nice relaxing bath – even if you’re convinced you’re just going to meet this guy for a quick drink and there’s not going to be any spark so you’re definitely not going to sleep with him – well, be prepared just in case. Because there’s nothing worse then turning up and deciding that oh, he is actually pretty hot and you wouldn’t mind a bit of fun BUT YOU HAVEN’T SHAVED YOUR LEGS. Plus even if you do decide you don’t like him in that way, putting all that effort in (and probably having silky smooth legs for the first time in months) will give you a huge confidence boost regardless. Shave your legs once for the first time since winter and you’re suddenly channeling your inner goddess. You are the supreme. And all that…
Your first date after a long term relationship can be totally nerve wracking. Have an alcoholic drink before you leave to calm your nerves – don’t drink too much, but if you do happen to accidentally get wasted, don’t sweat it – not everyone is perfect and you’re only young once. If you’re worried that you won’t have anything to talk about, prep some questions in advance and save them on your phone, or visit one of those ‘100 questions to ask a stranger’ websites! They’re always super fun, especially when you’ve had a few. Enjoy the first date butterflies too. Yes they feel kind of weird and make you feel sick, but first date butterflies is also a kind of really beautiful thing too.
This is probably the most important step, especially as so many of us find our dates online these days. You always need to take precautions in case the unthinkable happens – luckily, such cases are very rare, but it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Do give your date a quick Facebook stalk beforehand – just to ensure they’re not catfishing you! Let a friend know their full name and where you’re going on your date. I’d also recommend swotting up on the Ask For Angela scheme – basically, a lot of bars offer you the chance to leave a date discreetly if you go to the bar and ask for ‘Angela’. The bar staff will then get you out of the place and in a taxi safely. You can use this even if you’re date is just coming across ‘just a bit weird’, so it’s a great scheme. If you know where you’re going beforehand, it is worth ringing up to check if the location does this scheme though, as some bars do this by getting you to ask for a certain shot or ask for a different name – so it varies.
These are just some tips to keep in mind when prepping for a date. But there’s always the fun stuff too, like researching cool places to go or the build up beforehand! And don’t forget that if you’re still looking for a special someone for a first date, why not try visiting some dating websites such as dating Lothian, dating County Down, dating Edinburgh, dating Birmingham or dating Isle Of Wight? No matter your location, there’s someone (and a dating website!) for everyone..!
What are your pre-date rituals? Let me know!
*Please note, this is a sponsored post but all views and opinions are entirely my own.