There was once a time when I was slightly ashamed of it and wouldn’t even tell my friends, but then apps like Tinder and Plenty Of Fish came on the scene and all of a sudden everyone was a lot more open about it and the idea of meeting strangers online became the norm.
I also realized that it’s something a lot of us have been doing for a lot of years anyway and meeting strangers (safely!) online kind of goes hand in hand with our generation; we’ve made friends on Myspace, bloggers like myself have bonded via Twitter then met at blogging events in real life and I’ve even discovered bands online which have led me to meeting some awesome people.
There is still a bit of stigma around it though and I can sort of see why. I used to have the notion that if I told people I was online dating, they might think it’s because I’m not pretty enough or approachable enough to meet men in real life. I definitely do not think that anymore though as I soon realized that everyone and their dog was on some form of dating website anyway!
But I digress. Here’s some benefits of online dating if you’re single but still a little cautious about giving it a go.
YOU CAN MEET SO MANY GREAT PEOPLE
…even when it doesn’t evolve into a relationship. Online dating is pretty great I guess in a way that you sort of already forge some form of connection before meeting in real life and that connection doesn’t just go away if things don’t work out, so many people often go on to become friends afterwards. This wouldn’t happen if you just gave your number to someone in a club. Similarly, you could also make contacts this way. I’ve made contacts in music, graphic design and photography in the past, which is pretty cool.
DATING IS FUN!
For a while, I used online dating apps and websites just to go on dates and not necessarily for a relationship. This led to some real fun dates which is often one of the best parts of being single. Some of my most fun dates included going to an Arctic Monkey’s gig, spending the day along Southend seafront and drinks at the quirky underground 1940’s themed bar, Cahoots.
IT HELPS GET YOU OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
I used to be so shy and that’s part of the reason why I turned to online dating. I could never approach a guy unless I was drunk and on a night out, but online I found myself coming across as super confident and this paid off in my favour. I think this helped me become more outgoing in real life too, especially as the messages exchange online often led to meeting in real life. Also, heading down to Southend to meet a stranger for a first date was way out of my comfort zone, but it paid off and I ended up dating said guy for around six months.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE IT SERIOUSLY IF YOU DON’T WANT TO
Even though I know plenty of people that have forged relationships through the use of Tinder, it is still an app that is often considered the most playful of all of them and you’re never judged for whatever you’re looking for on there. If you don’t want a serious relationship or just want to dip your toe into the world of online dating, apps like Tinder can always lead to a bit of fun!
…BUT IT DEFINITELY WORKS TOO
Strangely enough, I’ve had more relationships/’dated’ more people online than I’ve had ‘single first dates’ (if that makes sense), which is weird when a lot of people think online dating is used for people looking for just one thing. I’ve been with my boyfriend for just under seven months now and in that time we’ve gone to Blackpool, Brighton and even Romania together (I’d never have seen myself visiting such a beautiful country before meeting Vincent!) and are super happy and in love. The proof is in the pudding = online dating does work.
THERE’S SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE
Want your friend to set up your profile for you and find some dates? There’s a website for that. Actually looking for something long term and serious rather than just fun? Take your pick of many websites aimed at those being a bit more serious with their choices. You can also find websites such as a Bedfordshire dating site (perfect if you really want to look local), over 50s dating, over 50s dating Northamptonshire, and, again websites that are more area specific; a Tayside dating site and over 50s dating Tayside. No matter what you’re looking for, there’s bound to be a website or app for you.
AND YOU CAN STILL BE ENTIRELY SAFE
Meeting strangers these days isn’t what it used to be. A lot of websites do necessary checks when allowing people to sign up and you usually get a good feel of a person and their character before meeting in person. That said, many websites recommend some safety measures too, such as meeting in a public place and letting someone know beforehand where you’re going to be. Like I said, luckily it’s more accepted these days so there should be no embarrassment with telling a friend that you’re off on a date with someone you met online, and lots of people have a get-out plan with their friend in case the date isn’t going as well as planned! Plus, who can forget that bar from St Albans that went viral last year for the notices in their toilets offering daters a subtle way to leave the bar in case they felt any unease on their date…
Will you be giving online dating a go or have you in the past? Let me know with a comment!
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