There’s not much to blog about recently I’m afraid! I’ve actually spent my time since Christmas trying to sort out my social life – with being away for uni for three years I’ve drifted apart from a lot of friends and over Christmas I spent some time finding out who my real friends are. Since then I’ve been making more effort with some good friends and trying to make some new ones so I’ve been trying to get out a lot more which leaves less time for blogging! I’ve also been getting my head down and trying to sort out the next step of my life after uni. I’ve been applying for internships left right and centre as well as constantly hunting for jobs that are anything to do with Magazine Journalism.

So between all this and having the flu last week, I’ve been having a bit of writers block. I’ve struggled to think of things to blog about. I don’t define this blog as strictly a beauty blog because I only do the odd beauty related post here and there. I like to do posts about my lifestyle but I don’t like to have too many of these posts. So I have struggled a bit! If anyone has any ideas on what posts you’d like to see more of then please do let me know!

Anyway I’ve decided my DVD collection is a bit slack these days so last week I went on a shopping spree on play.com and ordered a bunch of my favourite films. I’ll show you all what I bought, just in case anyone is after a new film to buy. All of these films I have absolutely loved, so I’ve been watching a lot of them over the weekend.

How I Met Your Mother Seasons 3-4 
I know this isn’t a film but who can resist a bit of HIMYM?!
Nick & Norah’s Infinate Playlist
This isn’t strictly speaking a typical rom-com – but its great nonetheless
You Again
Chalet Girl
Burlesque
Going The Distance
Kate & Leopold
What’s Your Number
This is fast becoming one of my favourite ever movies plus Chris Evans – yum!

Hope you’re all well and expect some more regular blog posts soon 🙂

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This week I’m featuring a website that really makes me think WTF?! I’m not even entirely sure what it is or how the craze has gotten so big but all I know that it is absolutely hilarious.

So basically this website features photos of actor, author and journalist Ross Kemp and they’ve taken these photos and er, folded them up. Then they’ve posted the very weird results with hilarious descriptions.

If you’re bored you’ll end up giggling at this website for hours, trust me. Do not go on it when you are about to go to sleep as some of the photos are pretty freaky!

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This blog post is a bit different! I hope you all like it and take into account what I have said as I’d like to start posting more posts like this in future.



Just before Christmas I saw this article.
This sad story is about a boy, Simon Foxley, who committed suicide after a girl he was attracted to ignored him and defriended him on Facebook, and her friends sent threatening messages to him. Reading this made me feel really sad and ashamed because although I’ve never been affected so badly by this type of thing happening, I have been on both ends of the spectrum here.
I think a lot of readers of this blog can admit to ignoring a guy after he comes across just too eager. Even though I’ve been on the receiving end of this treatment, I’m ashamed to say that I have many times expressed my interest in a guy and, instead of telling him so firmly when I change my mind about him, I’ve instead ‘phased him out’, ignoring his messages until he gets the message.
However, I often get angry when people treat me with the same treatment. There have been times when I’ve been getting on extremely well with a guy and genuinely just clicked with him, only to find him ignoring me for no apparent reason not long afterwards. I’ve expressed confusion to friends in these situations many times, trying to work out whether continuing to contact him just in case (just in case he’s lost my number, just in case he didn’t get my last message and so on) would be deemed too desperate. In fact on a regular basis I rant to anyone who will listen how sucks it is dating in modern society. If I’m convinced everything is going well and a guy ignores me, why shouldn’t I contact him again and find out why? I often think if I knew what had gone wrong, I’d know not to repeat the mistake with others in future – if it was me who had made that mistake that is.
So I definitely know what its like to for someone to show interest and then ignore me all of a sudden. Furthermore, I can relate to Simon Foxley on how he may have felt – on some level. The article states that Simon had already been thinking of committing suicide and that being ignored and receiving bullying messages simply pushed him over the edge. I have never been in a situation where I’ve considered suicide as an option, but I can relate to him on other levels. What girl hasn’t felt down about being single? Who hasn’t been in a situation where, after another failed relationship, had their feelings messed around with and have wanted to give up – not on life but on dating?
So if we know this, why do we do exactly the same thing? We never stop to consider what another person may be going through because of course it never crosses our minds that by pressing delete on a message without a reply may be the last of many ignored messages that only pushes someone over the edge.
The article also talks about messages Simon received from the girl’s friends. It’s natural for friends to rally in and protect someone after they are bombarded with messages – if your friend was receiving messages from someone they’d never met, claiming to be in love with them, you’d no doubt worry about them. But sending threatening messages was obviously too far when perhaps just a firm message asking to be left alone would have been much better.
Nonetheless, as sad as this story is, reactions to the messages Simon was clearly sending to this girl are obviously debatable. No one deserves threatening messages, no matter what the circumstances are. However, the article states that Simon was obviously a sensitive person who was already thinking about suicide and was claiming to be in love with a girl he had never met. Sometimes when people don’t get the message, people DO have to be less polite, especially if they are worried about their safety.
Luckily, when I posted a poll about this situation on this blog, most of you voted that the best way to deal with someone in this situation is to tell them firmly that you are not interested, which is probably the best way to do so. It gives an obvious message, whereas being too nice could be interpreted as giving off the wrong impression.
Perhaps without these messages Simon would have sadly went on to take his own life anyway. Or perhaps among the thousands of messages exchanged – some of them talking about being in love – Simon came across as so eager that he scared the girl, especially not leaving her alone when she stopped to reply. When someone is already considering suicide it’s extremely hard to know how to deal with the situation, so who knows what would have happened without the further threatening messages.
However, it should always be remembered that none of us are ever 100% aware of what is going on with someone’s life. We’ve all been on the receiving end of the phase out and in turn we’ve all done it ourselves. Maybe ignoring that guy that sent just too many messages made no difference and he just accepted it wasn’t right and went on about his day anyway. But maybe ignoring him could have been the final straw or the last example of the cold shoulder after what had already been an extremely bad day.
So remember, if you are ever in this situation, it never hurts to explain to someone that you are not interested. You could offer to be friend instead, or you can just clarify that you’d like to stay single. And if they still don’t get the message and you feel like you are in danger then you should confide in someone else about how to deal with the situation. But there’s never any need to be rude, because you never know what is really going on with that person.
If you are in a situation like this – whether you are sending the messages or you are on the receiving end –  you can talk to Samaritans for confidential support, help or advice on 08457 90 90 90.

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Just a quick post to apologize about the lack of posts recently. My internet was cut off and I’ve also been suffering from a nasty cold (and a few too many hangovers too, I admit) so blogging wasn’t really a possibility. Anyway, I’m just about recovering now and my internet is back on so expect blogging to be back to normal again. Hope you are all well 🙂

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